Mature religion involves changing ourselves and letting ourselves be changed
   by a mysterious encounter with grace, mercy, and forgiveness.
This is the truth that will set us free . . .
Remember, that it is only transformed people who have the power to transform others,
   as if by osmosis.
Usually you can lead others only as far as you yourselves have gone.
In the presence of whole people, or any encounter with Holiness itself,
   we simply find that after a while, we are different – and much better!

Richard Rohr